Self Love and Worth


How often do you look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are enough just as you are? How often do you take a moment to appreciate yourself? How many times have you said: ‘I've done enough for today, I am going to sit down, breathe and take a moment’?

On the flip side, how often do you look in the mirror and seek out your flaws? How often do you berate yourself and wish you had done better? How often do you rattle off all the things you need to get done without stopping to consider how you are feeling?

Take a moment now to consider where you invest your energy and thoughts in regards to your internal well being. Are you more of the top or the bottom paragraph?

As the quote by James Redfield reads, "Where attention goes, energy flows.” If your internal attention is centred towards self-love, kindness and compassion, chances are, you generally feel more peaceful, happier and more content. On the other hand, if your internal attention is centred mostly around negativity, you are more likely to feel frustrated, stressed, tired and like you never have enough, (while those pesky, joyful people always seem to have more).

The reason the joyful people always have more is that they generally believe they are enough and have enough. Therefore, more comes their way. More fullness, more abundance and therefore more ‘luck’. However, if you are living in an internal, depleted state of feeling like you are never enough, or that others always have more than you, you will get more of what feels like bad luck and negativity constantly cropping up in your life.

If you can relate to the latter, why not try flipping the switch up on your internal self-talk? There's nothing to lose, except for having a laugh at yourself. Wherever you are right now, place your hand over your heart, close your eyes, take a deep breath and say "I am enough, I am enough, I am enough. I am perfectly imperfect". Keep up continual positive self-talk for a week and keep an eye on any changes or differences to your well-being, relationships and life around you in general.

Bree Nicholls is a Corporate Culture and Wellness Expert, Career and Business Mentor and Personal Development Coach. She runs regular workshops across the Matakana and Warkworth areas. You can find out more about her and her services on her Facebook Business Page, under her name.

Susannah Marshall